Ways To Save A Marriage
It has been suggested on several occasions that every marriage is a work in progress. This simply means that couples should always remain focused on areas that need work. Unfortunately, most people are blind to their own shortcomings and it may take a threat of divorce to take corrective action. Sadly, by the time it reaches this stage at least one of them is ready to throw in the towel. If your marriage is in trouble and you are hanging on for dear life there are a few options available to you. It should be noted that in order for these to work, both people should be willing to try.
Never Assume
The first thing you need to do is rewind everything to the beginning. This is actually not as difficult as it sounds and will not require a time machine. Consider the first date and do what it takes to repeat it. Focus on the little things that used to make each other happy and include them in your routine. It is very easy to take someone for granted after years of opening the door for you. Do not assume that she will always be there to provide you with your morning coffee. A simple thank you is a great way to show someone that you are not taking him or her for granted.
Lighting The Fire
One of the hardest things to do is to rekindle a romance that has been allowed to go out. There was a reason why these two individuals fell in love in the first place and it stems from affection. It may require some soul searching or a simple return to square one could bring it to life. Several instances of simple touching and lightly kissing your partner could also work as a reminder that feelings existed at one time. It helps to put your spouse's needs ahead of your own but they need to know that you are doing that.
Breaking Habits
There are many bad habits that can be formed over time in a relationship that can put a damper on it but the greatest is probably stress from the job. Bringing that stress home and exposing your spouse to it is certain to raise eyebrows and temperatures. Start by leaving the perils of the job where it belongs and replace those conversations with plans for personal activities. When making those plans do it with couples who are in solid relationships. Avoid hanging out with single people, especially the kind that have indicated their anti-relationship stance. The key is to learn how to break these bad habits and replace them with good habits.
Prioritize
Relationships that are in a crisis may find it difficult to recover if they do not have the ability to step back for a few minutes. You must be able to put the relationship ahead of everything, including any children that are involved. This may sound a little harsh but if the relationship cannot be repaired, it will turn out worse for the children than putting them in second place. Many relationships are built on Christian principles, if this is one of them then it will not hurt to include prayer as one of your priorities.
Get Help
Most men will not ask for directions so asking for help through a counselor is not going to be their favorite thing to do. Excuses range from it does not work to it is too expensive when asked to try counseling. It should be noted that the money you save from paying a counselor would be considerably less than the expense of a full-blown divorce. Then there is the matter of the kids and the effect it will have on them. Finally, the key to success in any relationship is to follow through, that includes any advice or action plan offered by your counselor.
You can also watch this relationship rewind review on youtube.com:
It has been suggested on several occasions that every marriage is a work in progress. This simply means that couples should always remain focused on areas that need work. Unfortunately, most people are blind to their own shortcomings and it may take a threat of divorce to take corrective action. Sadly, by the time it reaches this stage at least one of them is ready to throw in the towel. If your marriage is in trouble and you are hanging on for dear life there are a few options available to you. It should be noted that in order for these to work, both people should be willing to try.
Never Assume
The first thing you need to do is rewind everything to the beginning. This is actually not as difficult as it sounds and will not require a time machine. Consider the first date and do what it takes to repeat it. Focus on the little things that used to make each other happy and include them in your routine. It is very easy to take someone for granted after years of opening the door for you. Do not assume that she will always be there to provide you with your morning coffee. A simple thank you is a great way to show someone that you are not taking him or her for granted.
Lighting The Fire
One of the hardest things to do is to rekindle a romance that has been allowed to go out. There was a reason why these two individuals fell in love in the first place and it stems from affection. It may require some soul searching or a simple return to square one could bring it to life. Several instances of simple touching and lightly kissing your partner could also work as a reminder that feelings existed at one time. It helps to put your spouse's needs ahead of your own but they need to know that you are doing that.
Breaking Habits
There are many bad habits that can be formed over time in a relationship that can put a damper on it but the greatest is probably stress from the job. Bringing that stress home and exposing your spouse to it is certain to raise eyebrows and temperatures. Start by leaving the perils of the job where it belongs and replace those conversations with plans for personal activities. When making those plans do it with couples who are in solid relationships. Avoid hanging out with single people, especially the kind that have indicated their anti-relationship stance. The key is to learn how to break these bad habits and replace them with good habits.
Prioritize
Relationships that are in a crisis may find it difficult to recover if they do not have the ability to step back for a few minutes. You must be able to put the relationship ahead of everything, including any children that are involved. This may sound a little harsh but if the relationship cannot be repaired, it will turn out worse for the children than putting them in second place. Many relationships are built on Christian principles, if this is one of them then it will not hurt to include prayer as one of your priorities.
Get Help
Most men will not ask for directions so asking for help through a counselor is not going to be their favorite thing to do. Excuses range from it does not work to it is too expensive when asked to try counseling. It should be noted that the money you save from paying a counselor would be considerably less than the expense of a full-blown divorce. Then there is the matter of the kids and the effect it will have on them. Finally, the key to success in any relationship is to follow through, that includes any advice or action plan offered by your counselor.
You can also watch this relationship rewind review on youtube.com:
We also were able to find this video by a woman, which corroborates what the guy above is saying about relationship rewind: